EXPECTATIONS & DREAMS 5
ATHLETIC RETREAT
It is completely natural and acceptable to become discouraged when attempting to enjoy a selected form of athletics. These things often happen at the spur of a moment. Agony surfaces when that moment arrives even when it’s expected. Serious time and money have, most likely, been spent. First response should be: A "time out" for all has arrived and is advised. In concert with that, he matter, in most instances, does not have to be considered epidemic. Important for the observing parent, teacher, coach, pro ( mentors) and alike is to take a step back and get into a huddle with all involved. Above all, listen to what the child’s reason for disappointment and subsequent discouragement is. Then arrange for quality time to discuss the matter. Plan a strategy, look for a window of opportunity to turn things around. Backing off from the excitement of the child’s retreat offers an opportunity to refrain from combatively Reacting ( negative) and resort to Responding ( positive) without aggression. Discuss, plan and most of all En-courage should take the place of reprimand, criticize and Dis-courage. It’s an opportune time to remind the child about all the moments and times the child has enjoyed and performed successfully. Bring pictures and videos as support. Remind the child of all the hard work & commitment that went into it. Seize the moments when the child’s body language shows positive signs & responses and instantly zero in on them. When the conversation hits a road block, back off again, even for more than a week or longer. Bring it up again when the child is in a positive mood when watching athletics on TV. Or comes home with an athletic story about friends. The conversations must slowly, but surely, lead the individual back to action. Explain to the child: “The mark of a winner is a loser who gave it one more try”. On that note, always leave the door open for the child to start something else in Athletics. Let's face it, individual dancing is a pure form of athletics too, even if it does not involve hitting, kicking, throwing and passing a ball & instead is accompanied by music. In case that is a considered option, it stops the potential for quitting on everything. Here's the "kicker": it even has the potential that it might just create the motivation to return the child to the activity it has just retreated from. "Bingo!" Remember that we are dealing with a growing up child who, most likely, will regret as well as remember later in life, that it did not adhere to encouraging parents. The growing child is a unique individual who is eagerly trying to find where it fits in society. Finding a niche where the fun factor is at maximum is important to the child's development. Just going through the motions of activities is boring and discouraging and might just be the reason for the “Athletic Retreat”. Totally giving up on the wearing down of athletic shoes and taking them off altogether, not getting in shape or staying in shape, should not be an option. When considered, should be countered. On that note, personalized training and exercising have most impact when done on a 1 on 1 = Y&M, You & Me, individualized/customized approach. Check out the 3Skatter website:
www.3skatter-pe.com
Here are some IMPACT ELEMENTS, like in, points to consider in the conversations:
In our Format and Program, each child is individually recognized by attributes formulated in the “3Skatter-Three 3s” ( discussed on the website )
1. A) Character, B) Personality C) Equipment
2. A) Physical B) Mental C) Emotional ( Spiritual when applied in religious activities )
3. A) I don’t know what to do & how to do it. B) I know I can do it. C) I am going to explore where my limits are.
When dealing with, watching and creating a Profile of the child on the above three basics, it becomes an exciting and fascinating event for the parent & child alike.
It is formatted to motivate & empower parents and mentors. On that note, all involved. Pushing the child too hard as a form of encouraging, can lead to serious injuries and is not in the child's interest. In my experience over the years, observations & opinion it is also one of the factors for children going into Athletic Retreat. However, encouraging the child in a positive way, is just the right thing to do. It leads to Optimism. ( to be discussed in future articles )
Henri Charles Schmid.
ATHLETIC RETREAT
It is completely natural and acceptable to become discouraged when attempting to enjoy a selected form of athletics. These things often happen at the spur of a moment. Agony surfaces when that moment arrives even when it’s expected. Serious time and money have, most likely, been spent. First response should be: A "time out" for all has arrived and is advised. In concert with that, he matter, in most instances, does not have to be considered epidemic. Important for the observing parent, teacher, coach, pro ( mentors) and alike is to take a step back and get into a huddle with all involved. Above all, listen to what the child’s reason for disappointment and subsequent discouragement is. Then arrange for quality time to discuss the matter. Plan a strategy, look for a window of opportunity to turn things around. Backing off from the excitement of the child’s retreat offers an opportunity to refrain from combatively Reacting ( negative) and resort to Responding ( positive) without aggression. Discuss, plan and most of all En-courage should take the place of reprimand, criticize and Dis-courage. It’s an opportune time to remind the child about all the moments and times the child has enjoyed and performed successfully. Bring pictures and videos as support. Remind the child of all the hard work & commitment that went into it. Seize the moments when the child’s body language shows positive signs & responses and instantly zero in on them. When the conversation hits a road block, back off again, even for more than a week or longer. Bring it up again when the child is in a positive mood when watching athletics on TV. Or comes home with an athletic story about friends. The conversations must slowly, but surely, lead the individual back to action. Explain to the child: “The mark of a winner is a loser who gave it one more try”. On that note, always leave the door open for the child to start something else in Athletics. Let's face it, individual dancing is a pure form of athletics too, even if it does not involve hitting, kicking, throwing and passing a ball & instead is accompanied by music. In case that is a considered option, it stops the potential for quitting on everything. Here's the "kicker": it even has the potential that it might just create the motivation to return the child to the activity it has just retreated from. "Bingo!" Remember that we are dealing with a growing up child who, most likely, will regret as well as remember later in life, that it did not adhere to encouraging parents. The growing child is a unique individual who is eagerly trying to find where it fits in society. Finding a niche where the fun factor is at maximum is important to the child's development. Just going through the motions of activities is boring and discouraging and might just be the reason for the “Athletic Retreat”. Totally giving up on the wearing down of athletic shoes and taking them off altogether, not getting in shape or staying in shape, should not be an option. When considered, should be countered. On that note, personalized training and exercising have most impact when done on a 1 on 1 = Y&M, You & Me, individualized/customized approach. Check out the 3Skatter website:
www.3skatter-pe.com
Here are some IMPACT ELEMENTS, like in, points to consider in the conversations:
In our Format and Program, each child is individually recognized by attributes formulated in the “3Skatter-Three 3s” ( discussed on the website )
1. A) Character, B) Personality C) Equipment
2. A) Physical B) Mental C) Emotional ( Spiritual when applied in religious activities )
3. A) I don’t know what to do & how to do it. B) I know I can do it. C) I am going to explore where my limits are.
When dealing with, watching and creating a Profile of the child on the above three basics, it becomes an exciting and fascinating event for the parent & child alike.
It is formatted to motivate & empower parents and mentors. On that note, all involved. Pushing the child too hard as a form of encouraging, can lead to serious injuries and is not in the child's interest. In my experience over the years, observations & opinion it is also one of the factors for children going into Athletic Retreat. However, encouraging the child in a positive way, is just the right thing to do. It leads to Optimism. ( to be discussed in future articles )
Henri Charles Schmid.
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